Do you really know why you need a Relationship? Do you sincerely have what it takes to be in a relationship? Are you ready and willing to sacrifice all to please your better half? What do you understand to be Committed to one partner only?
It will surprise you to know that many go into Relationships without really knowing what they want, many just jump into it because they see their friends doing so, many just do it for fun sake , you that's reading now, why are you in that relationship? Are you there for REAL LOVE, TO FULFILL GOD'S WORD & TO GIVE LOVE & HAPPINESS TO THAT MAN OR WOMAN or are there for SEX & FUN SAKE?
Well today, I want to touch light on the COMMITMENT PART, many have defaulted in this role for reasons beyond them & while some people err unknowingly & some people intentionally hurt their partner just because their selfish ambitious desires wasn't granted but now what are the errors you must look at critically in your love life?
COMMITMENT: A ten letter word consisting of 3 (three) vowels and seven (7) consonants; a word that symbolizes union, loyalty, monogamy, togetherness, love, mutual respect and perhaps all those priceless sentiments which we hold in such high esteem. It's a word almost always associated with marriage; a word that means so much in theory. Yet in practice is so more often than not reduced to a mere string of alphabetical letters.
Marriages today are crumbling for lack of commitment. So why get married in the first place if you have no intention of being loyal? Most 'contemporary' women, it seems, have tuned into 'Desperate Housewives'. The infamous line of "It meant nothing. It was just sex' being the buzz. Yes, times are hard, there is too much temptation, we are only human, and we all make mistakes. But there are some who actually think it's OK to sleep around because it really is just sex. At the end of the day, they are going home to their partner; they are providing for their partner, they are 'committed' to their partner. So what's the big deal?
The irony is it is a big deal. Because commitment is clearly no longer what it used to be, the word has developed a whole new meaning. It's rarely about being together in sickness and health, for richer or poorer etc. Today, it's about selfish needs. Marriage now rests on 'convenience'.
Confusing the C word...
Mention the 'C' word and you are bound to get varied responses. A sexy bombshell, who has been in a couple of high-profile romance says, "It means everything to me." while her equally sexy sister says, "It's just become a word". Another heartthrob candidly confesses that six months ago, he would have been working his charm on the ladies but today, he is in a serious relationship and doesn't want to break his sweetheart's trust, especially since his track record sucks!
A young hottie sincerely feels 'he can keep love and sex separate'. He believes that he can never ever love another, yet he has faltered on occasions simply for physical reasons. He calls it 'A momentary flirtation'. His lifelong "commitment" is to only one lady. What does this prove? Utter confusion and a warped sense of values!
Totally committed...
But fear not, for there is hope yet.
Nick and Christopher, a married couple, says you can never go wrong if you marry your best friend. They would never abuse each other's trust.
Jonathan, who has been married for three years, explains although there is temptation, he wouldn't cheat on his partner simply because of his faith in God and respect for his partner.
Jim can't bear the thought of his wife cheating on him. Is he tempted? No, because the mere thought of her leaving him along with the kids, if he ever faltered, is worse than death!
Commitment phobia...
There are others who are afraid of 'settling down'. Steve, 40, remains a bachelor because he is not ready to settle down. He is an incredible man who has the distinction of being friends with every single one of his ex-girlfriends, simply because he has never lied to them about 'commitment'. Today, the 'C' word has multiple meanings. One only hoped it wouldn't equate to multiple partners!
Why people stay in a relationship or a marriage?
A relationship depends on how one views it. When married, it becomes a special investment, which also has religious connotations. Being with a person for a long period of time gives rise to emotions like affection and love. So people are compromise at the sake of their values. Also, a sense of security comes into play. But selfish motives can also allow a person to stick around for functional purposes.
Why are people scared of making a commitment?
People scared of committing usually suffer from some deep-seated emotional problems. A basic sense of insecurity could also lead to a situation wherein a partner is not willing to commit. While you can't say whether its men or women who are less likely to commit, the most obvious reason as to why people are scared to commit is the lack of mutual trust.
For whatever reasons made you take the decisions you took to either seat on the fence & taste every dick and harry all in the name of not been ready or been afraid to commit into just one partner and remain faithful to only him or her, understand that the law of God can never be broken about Relationships/Marriage, if you must engage in sexual intercourse, MARRIAGE IS YOUR LICENSE, and if you desire to remain single, SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE IS A TABOO/IS A SIN & all those who breaks this DIVINE LAW have God to contend with, remember, forbidden fruits may taste sweet but the consequences of eating it is very severe, THINK BEFORE YOU ACT!
Can a man mock God and expert Grace to abound, God forbid! And
Galatians 6:7 says:
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.
Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.
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