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WHAT TO DO WHEN AN EX WANTS YOU BACK EVEN WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED

#For everyone:

Despite being married, some spouses may have to deal with a haunting past. One of such scenarios is the resurgence of an EX who wouldn't stop at nothing to having a former lover back.

Over the years like in a Nollywood romantic movie, for reasons best known to them, an ex resurges from nowhere after long years of parting, wanting their former lover back into a love relationship even when they know that the former lover is now married to someone else.

Many of such exs come back with lots of promises and sometimes benefits. Desperate, and when not successful through the gentleman's way, they may resort to nasty ways such as:

1. Emotional blackmail:
This is when although married and the ex resurged and invited you to a hotel room because he probably would have planted a camera or recording device to indict you through an implicating discussion bordering on your past. And so they threaten to get the recording or pictures of that meeting to your spouse.

2. Sexual blackmail:
This is when the ex resurges and threatens to tell your spouse of your many illicit sexual lifestyles of the past if you don't want to come back to them.

3. Past crimes blackmail:
This is when an ex resurges and threatens to tell your spouse that you were once a criminal, eg: armed robber, cultist, thief, fraudster, etc.

4. Love child blackmail:
This is when an ex resurges and threatens to tell your spouse that you have a love child with them or someone else that you didn't disclose to your spouse (MAKE SURE YOU DON'T HAVE SKELETON IN YOUR CUPBOARD).

5. Abortion blackmail:
This is when an ex resurges and threatens to tell your spouse that you had series of abortions with them or someone else that you probably didn't tell your spouse about them.

6. Serious illness blackmail:
This is when a spouse has a serious illness the ex thinks that partner wouldn't have told their spouse about yet or at all.

7. Damaged womb blackmail:
This is when an ex resurges and threatens to tell the former lover's spouse that the wife had in the past damaged her womb due series of abortions.

8. Previous marriage blackmail:
This is when an ex resurges and threatens to tell the spouse of the former lover that the partner was once married to someone somewhere and didn't tell the spouse about that.

The list goes on and on.

As you can see, not all exs are nice; many are crazy and won't stop at nothing to get their former lover back in a love relationship with them. Many spouses out of fear and mistakes of the past have succumbed to their threats.

Dear friends, actually the right thing to do about one's past is to discuss it with the new lover (who is now your spouse). Pasts with serious consequences and haunting situations shouldn't be covered at all. Of course, I know that there's always the fear for the unknown and rejection, however, don't be afraid because no true lover will reject you. Rather on the contrary, they will empathize and sympathize with you.

True love is COMPASSIONATE in nature.

When an ex resurges from nowhere wanting you back with them, don't panic. Be bold to confront them by telling them that you are no longer interested in them, that you have moved on and are now married to someone else or in courtship with someone else. Should they threaten to blackmail you in any way, tell them that you will tell your spouse about it or that you have told them about it already.

However, the reason why many of us succumb to blackmails from our exs is because many of us have skeletons in our cupboards; there are some secrets we have kept for years because of fear. The truth is, whether we like it or not, our past will haunt us someday. So why not discuss that past with your spouse today?

Dear crazy exs:, Resurging from nowhere and wanting a love relationship with someone after some or many years of parting is unacceptable and evil. Why would you want to hurt them now that they're married or in with someone? Please let the past be byegone. There are
etter ways to do things. Be civil.

DEAR SPOUSES:
I must say here that sometimes I won't blame completely a partner who decided to hide a very vital information from their partner in a marriage.

Most times, the way we handle things in our relationships and marriages will determine how much of secrets will a lover or spouse let out to us. Many of us are so IMMATURE to say the least Please don't always react negatively to the issues bothering your lover/spouse. Be loving, caring, tolerant, understanding and compassionate. That's the only way your lover or spouse will let you into their past. Love conquers all mistakes and MATURITY is key in handling the affairs of a love relationship or marriage.

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