Matters Of Dè Heart

 * REASON WHY YOU SHOULD NOT COMPARE YOUR SPOUSE WITH YOUR EX!* There is an old saying that goes “Comparison is the thief of joy.” This phrase has been around for decades and for good reason.  The moment you start comparing your partner to another relationship is the moment you choose to be unhappy. I have met many persons saying,  “I wish my husband was like my ex.  He was so much more affectionate!” “If my wife were like _ I would never feel bored in bed.” If these sentiments sound familiar, your relationship may be on the fast track to disaster! Your spouse is not your ex and they’re not your friend’s husband or wife. They are unique, with their own set of experiences and beliefs. Stop comparing your spouse to someone else and start looking at their positive qualities and loving them for who they are. _Here are 6 reasons why the urge to compare will be your downfall ._ 1) * It isn’t fair* Think of your two favourite foods. Maybe you like pizza and you also love ro...

 * WHEN THINGS ARE SMOOTH WITH YOU EVERYONE CAN CLAIM TO SAY THEY LOVE YOU!* Hence, it's vital to subject every love to test to determine their authenticity. * HOW DO YOU TEST LOVE? * 1. Subject it to the test of sacrifice. Sacrifice is the ultimate test of love.  Sacrifice means to deny yourself of something, to let go of something valuable.  How much is the person willing to sacrifice for you?  Can he or she deny himself or herself of something valuable for your sake?  When you are not able to provide for her financially as a result of being broke, will the love still be there? When you lose your job, will she still be there for you?  When you are down in health, will the love still be there? THE TEST OF LOVE:  *[test of sacrifice]* When he asks you for sex and you decline because you believe in no sex till marriage, will he still continue with you?  When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, can he or she be there for you uncondition...

 * RULES FOR COUPLES FOR BEING MAD/ANGRY AT EACH OTHER* 1. Be mad at me, but don't insult me. Anger is not a ticket to speak carelessly 2. Be mad at me, but tell me why you are mad. Don't assume I know 3. Be mad at me, but don't broadcast it to others. Cover me 4. Be mad at me, but don't forget the many good things about me. Be objective and fair 5. Be mad at me, but also remember the many other times I have forgiven you 6. Be mad at me, but don't give me silent treatment. Keep the communication lines open 7. Be mad at me, but don't use it as an excuse to cheat on me 8. Be mad at me, but don't hurt me to even the score. Love doesn't revenge 9. Be mad at me, but don't stay mad for long. Let's sort this out quickly  10. Be mad at me, but don't stop praying for me. I still need your prayers 11. Be mad at me, but don't threaten to quit what we have. Ending it is not the solution 12. Be mad at me, but don't punish me using sex. Let's k...

 *TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS. A toxic relationship do not only depicts when the man is beating his woman or when the woman is being violent with her man. A relationship is said to be toxic when it doesn't go in line with the way of the Lord. Dear sisters, that brother you are presently in a relationship with has obviously been disturbing to get down with you severally, staying in such a relationship is TOXIC be wise to let go without thinking twice! Some brothers find themselves being in a relationship with a sister who can't control her anger and herself whenever they have a misunderstanding and the next thing you could do is still managing the relationship thinking she will change after marriage,kai🔥 what a great error you have committed. Listen, never make a mistake of keeping the mentality of "he or she will change when we marry". Many brothers and sisters has fallen into this deception. No one changes after marriage, it is what you deal with during courtship that will ...