Matters Of Dè Heart

TOPIC: BULLETPROOF MARRIAGE: (INVITE GOD INTO YOUR MARRIAGE & MAKE IT BULLETPROOF) 2* BIBLE REF: Hebrews 13:4 Breaching Intimacy If you were to sit down with a group of friends or colleagues and have a discussion on what trust, faithfulness, and intimacy in marriage looks like, you would have enough to fill a book. The dynamics of life are unchanging, but they look different to every person. Various situations and influencers affect a person’s convictions and ways of thinking. At the end of the day, do not stray from the standard of God’s Word as it relates to major issues in your marriage. Jesus raised the standard for purity when he said that “anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28 NIV). The emphasis is not on avoiding a physical relationship outside your marriage; it is on any action that will breach the intimacy between you and your spouse. Don’t allow the exposure to this world’s darkest evils soften your convict...

MARRIAGE HEALING DEVOTIONAL, SERIES 8 PART 1 TOPIC: BULLETPROOF MARRIAGE: (INVITE GOD INTO YOUR MARRIAGE & MAKE IT BULLETPROOF) 1 BIBLE REF: James 1:20 TRUST KILLERS Law enforcement is a profession with no room for error. This level of pressure faced by military members and first responders, professionals commonly referred to as sheepdogs, is one reason it is so important to stay laser-focused on your marriage and aware of potential dangers in the home. *For example, when you are spiritually disobedient to the commands God has given, you invite trust-killers into your marriage.* Although many trust-killers are unrecognizable in the early stages, preemptive strategies can help thwart their continued operation. Maybe one or both of you have invited trust-killers into your marriage either knowingly or unknowingly. *For example, when things get difficult, do you choose to remain silent, avoid conflict, or keep secrets from each other? Maybe, without the knowledge of your spouse, you ch...

UNDERSTANDING COURTSHIP. For all the single men and ladies: Having encountered and interacted with many singles, I observed with some level of sadness their gross ignorance about COURTSHIP. Therefore, today I write to explain and clarify singles on the subject matter. WHAT IS COURTSHIP? Simply put, courtship is a period of time where two lovers having decided to marry, are working towards marriage. At this level, a proposal would have been made signalling engagement or commitment by both lovers. Of course, at this level, both families would have been informed too. HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST? There is actually no time frame with regards to the length of a courtship. However, a good courtship shouldn't be too short or too long. Relationship and marriage counselors, coaches and experts advocate a minimum of 1 year and a maximum of 3 years. However, not every courtship has really adhered to this recommendation because of the unreadiness of one party to tie the knot at a chosen da...

RELATIONSHIP GIST: TEST THE LOVE ! When things are going well for you, anyone can claim to love you. Therefore, you have to subject every love to test to determine their authenticity. How do you test love? 1. Subject it to the test of sacrifice  Sacrifice is the ultimate test of love. Sacrifice means to deny yourself of something, to let go of something valuable. ✅ How much is the person willing to sacrifice for you? Can he or she deny himself or herself of something valuable for your sake?  ✅ When you are not able to provide for her financially as a result of being broke, will the love still be there? ✅ When you lose your job, will she still be there for you?   ✅ When you are down health wise, will the love still be there? ✅ When he asks you for sex and you decline because you believe in no sex till marriage, will he still continue with you?  ✅ When you find yourself in a very difficult situation, can he or she be there for you especially when they have the abi...

12 WAYS THE ENEMY ATTACKS CHRISTIAN'S MARRIAGES. I’ve studied spiritual warfare for sometime now and I’m continually reminded of how the enemy attacks Christian marriages. From the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3), he has sought to lure individuals and couples into his traps. He wants to weaken or destroy marriages, and he delights when children are wounded in the process. Without suggesting a “the devil made me do it” philosophy, I list here some of the enemy’s primary tools I’ve seen over the years.  📌 Neglect – The same couple that spent all their dating time together grows apart after the wedding day. The neglect is usually subtle, though – which is the way the enemy often works . 📌Sin – We can’t get around this one. Regardless of what the sin is, disobedience that weakens one’s relationship with God also weakens our relationship with our spouse. 📌Blame – That’s what Adam did in the Garden, and what we often do. When it’s not my fault, I don’t have to worry about changing. My spo...