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Marital/Relationship Talk: DON'T LET YOUR WIFE DIE!

Don't let your wife die on you too soon


Must read for all men especially....

Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed.

When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.

A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.

If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:


1. CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM 

You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely


2. BE APPRECIATIVE

Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife


3. GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT

Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.


4. GET THE MACHINE

As God bless you, try to get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundering Machine, etc


5. BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES

Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy


6. BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT

Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life


7. HOLD HER

Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.


8. LISTEN MORE

Men are known to be good talker but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation


9. BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER

Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them


10. GIVE HER HOPE

No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being critical or negative. When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life, don't ever give up on yourself, inspire hope for better tomorrow while you make a conscious effort


11. PRAY FOR HER

Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God fix her, you can’t do it.

Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask him to comfort her and help her see herself as He see her. Praying for her to her ears will do a lot good too.


12. BE SENSITIVE

Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.

Learn the art of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!


13. PRAY WITH HER

Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together. Don't just want her to be the prayer warrior in the house, lead her to God too. Start the prayer. Wake her up to pray with you. Every wife needs a strong man in every aspect


14. ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP

Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, She’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know. She wants you to ask her. Just ask her


15. HELP AROUND THE HOUSE

Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you if you can afford it. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs. Don't always be in the habit of asking her what she has for you to eat. Ask her what she wants to eat for dinner. You can treat her like a queen she is.


16. TAKE HER OUT

Take her out, eat out, it just not be too an expensive eatery, go to the cinema or comedy shows, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.   


17. ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST

“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most nude earning husband will do when their wives cry, what an insensitive word. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. Tears drop unburdens the heart. It’s a great way to fix the problem


18. CELEBRATE HER

Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wife hood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day when she knows that you are proud of her


19. LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY

Allow her to go on holiday all alone to herself, even if it's to her parent's house or sibling's if you can't afford a hotel trip. This can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy


20. KEEP QUIET WHEN NECESSARY

There are times your wife needs to keep to herself, learn to respect that and allow her process her problems herself. Just don't let it last for ever before lending your voice to seek a way out.


Our daddies in the house, we can make our homes better by making our wives happier


May God help us men🤔🤔🤔🤔

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